Uriel Oputa Sparks Debate On Nigeria’s Dating Scene: “It’s Hard To Find A Decent Man”.
Former Big Brother Naija housemate Uriel Oputa has ignited a heated online discussion with her candid remarks about the challenges of finding a committed partner in Nigeria. Speaking on the Outside The Box podcast, the reality TV star and entrepreneur expressed her frustration with the dating landscape, highlighting the scarcity of “decent men” and the societal pressures faced by women in their 30s and 40s.
Oputa, known for her outspoken nature, pointed to a cultural mindset among some Nigerian men that she believes hinders meaningful relationships. “You’ll see women in Nigeria now, 35, some even 40, 41, and they’re still single – fine, accomplished women. Why? It’s hard to find a decent man in Nigeria, and it boils down to this culture of ‘there’s always something better.’ There’s nothing better,” she stated. Her comments have resonated with many, sparking conversations about modern relationships and societal expectations.
The 37-year-old media personality also shared personal experiences, revealing how her desperation to marry two years ago led to a painful relationship. “I met someone who showed me pepper – crocodile pepper,” she quipped, referring to the emotional turmoil she endured. Oputa’s honesty extended to her critique of age-shaming, a prevalent issue in Nigeria. “Age shaming is such a real thing here. Women in their 30s and 40s feel like they’re expired milk, and it’s unfair,” she said, urging society to rethink its treatment of single women.
In a lighter moment, Oputa expressed admiration for music executive Don Jazzy, playfully suggesting that a relationship with him could elevate her career. However, she noted his previous comments about struggling with monogamy, advising him to consider dating women with more “substance.” “I love Don Jazzy, but I feel like his stance on commitment might be due to the type of women he goes for. Try a different type,” she remarked.
Her remarks have divided opinions online. Some agree with Oputa’s assessment, arguing that emotional maturity and commitment are lacking among many Nigerian men. One social media user commented, “What Uriel said is valid. A lot of women are single not because they don’t want love, but because it’s hard to find emotionally mature, honest men.” Others, however, challenged her perspective, with one user suggesting, “Her definition of a decent man is a rich man. Nobody wants to marry broke boys like me.”
Oputa’s comments also touched on her time in the Big Brother Naija house in 2017, where she admitted she never expected to win. “Nigerians don’t always like real people who tell it like it is. I went to the house not to win but to be myself,” she said, reinforcing her reputation for authenticity.
The discussion has shed light on broader issues, including the societal pressure on women to marry and the cultural attitudes that shape dating in Nigeria. As Oputa’s remarks continue to trend, they’ve prompted both men and women to reflect on what constitutes a “decent” partner and how cultural norms influence modern relationships.
